How to be Popular – Personal Development
Many questions for your personal development…
Sometimes, it’s best to ask yourself why you want to utilize personal development techniques to become popular in the first place. Why do you want to become popular? Is there someone or something in particular that you want to impress? Once you can answer most of the natural questions that ask why you want what you are striving for, then you are ready to go further in your quest of personal development in becoming popular.
Try mind mapping a personal mission statement to help you design and achieve your ideal life. When you are uncertain where your life is heading, or when you doubt your own abilities, this mission statement will remind you: who you are, what you are determined to achieve, and what you have already accomplished to date. See the mind map I created to go with this article.
By building yourself a mission statement, you will then have your own personal plan to keep you on track and answerable to yourself. It’s a significant personal compass, and one that you can carry with you at all times.
Be Comfortable and Confident
One of the first things to remember is that confident body language can often help you be more at ease with yourself and who you are. Like ducks to water, people will flock to you when you exude confidence~Like ducks to water, people will flock to you when you exude confidence}. It’s true, and often stubbornly accepted, that the more satisfied you become with who you are and the feelings that might surround you, the easier it is to make friends.
Your Style and Look
Just as Picasso, Da Vinci, and Rembrandt crafted and molded masterpieces that incorporated themselves, so must your personal image be carved, painted, shaded, and shaped the best way that represents you. Contrary to what most people would believe, constantly switching up the style of your appearance seems rather desperate for popularity, rather than cemented in confidence of one’s self. For example, a nice short hair cut could do wonders for an individual to bring out their eyes, or smile. These enhancements to your facial appearance give you not only a unique style, but a look that best represents you.
Dress to Impress. So, dress like an apple
I remember my elders telling me that an apple a day keeps the doctor away. I wondered to my self several years later, if we’ve discovered this revolutionary information, why don’t we utilize it? Why do we refuse to take action? These questions can only be answered by poor choices in habit. The healthier we feel, the more confident we feel. The better we feel, the better we look. And if you look healthy, people will most likely be attracted to you. Having a shower every day will help. Need I mention deodorant, a comb through the hair, and a toothbrush to the teeth will aid in anyone’s quest for popularity? Guess I just did that.
Be Passionate
Throughout the years, America, and many other countries, has created movies that dazzle us and shoots us toward some form of personal development. They wrap us in a choke hold of suspense, or they drown us in admiration for a fictional character’s plights, victories, and lessons learned. One common characteristic all of the heroes in those movies have, is passion. Their passion is the reason our breaths become baited with anticipation of their triumph. Those story bound people have what most viewers feel they lack.
Now, if we focus on the real life characters with passion we see why Abraham Lincoln, John F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Jr., Malcolm X, George Lucas, Michael Jackson, Truman Capote, Fred Astaire, and Princess Diana were so popular. In regards to their passion for what they achieved, they astounded many, and bewildered the rest. Do something you love, but have been too afraid to try. The stronger your passion, the greater your spirit will shine, and the more people will flock to you like a shepherd guiding their way.
Hesitate To Shine No More
Your gifts and talents should not be hidden from the world. Never hesitate to share your interests with others. By showing all facets of who you are, your knowledge, and your capacity to learn what you didn’t know, will cause people to forge relationships with you, almost instantly! The more you shine, the more confidence you have, the more popular you become. You will become more known. Beware of the vanity, arrogant, side effects that can affect most individuals who play the popularity game. Be humble, and open to new ideas, new people, and new ways to express your thoughts creatively.
Talk It Up
Make sure to keep talking. You certainly don’t want to become a chatter box that doesn’t know how to be quiet. This is the type of talking that is comfortable and reassuring. Ensure that as the saying goes – if you are talking make sure you have something useful to say. At the end of the day, it is all about communication.
Try to talk to at least one person, whom you do not know, each day. After you’ve mastered that for a week, then try talking to two others unknown to you daily. The next week, try to talk to three, etc. You need to gradually over time, (and practice makes perfect) feel more comfortable with chatting with anyone.
Do Something New
Try to venture out into the unknown and familiarize yourself with it. It is often too easy to sit back in our comfort zone. We cling to our environment, our culture, our personal forms of entertainment; but trying something new, more than once a decade, is one of the best ways to gain popularity.
Keep in mind that you should not participate in anything solely because you want attention. When you do decide to try something new, make sure you have a genuine interest in doing it and are not just doing it because you should. It’s a hold your breath underwater as long as you can, but make sure you can swim first kind of thing.
Remember to be humble and grateful. This could be going to a movie, joining a pottery class, taking up a new sport, or doing a course to enhance either your business and or personal life. Ensure you spend time with people who enjoy what they do, to give you the best opportunity for a positive experience. This will really help in skyrocketing your popularity.
Go With the Flow
Do you remember when you where younger and you discovered a talent you had, one that was magically given to you in the blink of an eye, and you happened to master within two to five minutes? But do you remember talking the talent to someone, a teacher, mom, dad, sibling, or grandparent, and having your talent completely flop and not work. “I did it so many times before,” you’d muffle through embarrassed eyes. Don’t be embarrassed, because it has happened to all of us at some point. Our momentary talent show is ruined, because we are thinking about it too hard. We concentrate so hard on getting it right and not messing up that we end up doing just that.
Just like in the analogy used in the previous paragraph, so must you relate it to the world of popularity? The key to being popular is actually not trying to fit in with everyone, but being yourself, while at the same time embracing new ideas, cultures, races, styles, and entertainment. Try something at least once, that’s within your moral and ethical boundaries, and if you don’t like it then don’t do it again. The more you are exposed to, the more you understand or have empathy for. The people you meet, and the friends that you make along your way to social stardom will send your spirit soaring through the sky, a shinning star, bright with status, regard, and esteem.
